Tori Spelling has come a long way from her 90210 days playing meek high schooler Donna Martin. The 37-year-old Hollywood survivor is now a reality star, a jewelry and children’s clothing designer and — yes — celebrated author. Her third book, Uncharted Territori (Simon & Schuster), is an upfront memoir chronicling her troubled relationship with her mother Candy (they’ve reconciled), a bout with H1N1 (which caused a drastic weight loss) and life with husband Dean McDermott and their two toddlers (no easy feat). We caught up with her at a recent signing at Books & Books at the Bal Harbour Shops.
What was your writing process?
When I started writing the book, it was like everything in my life started unfolding. I started having relationship issues, health issues, and I worked things out with my mom so literally the book wrote itself. I went on this whole emotional journey, and at the end, I was like, ‘Wait, I think I actually entered a new territory,’ so it was kind of ironic.
What is the message?
I speak a lot in the book about trying to find that balance between me time and being a wife and a mom and being a businesswoman, and I realize I’m still kind of in that area of trying to find that balance. I haven’t quite found time for me yet. It’s hard.
You talk about the press being hard on you about your weight.
I’m always like: Check your facts. I’ve worked really hard to have as many friends — I call my fans my friends now — and there are a lot of women out there that look up to me and relate to me and for them to say words like ‘anorexia’ and ‘eating disorders’ I think they’re doing a great disservice to themselves and to women out there.
Do the anorexia rumors get to you?
I told the truth in my book about my health issues I’ve had in the last year. They didn’t care about that. It’s like every week, ‘What can we think of now? We’ll just say her weight is 2 pounds less.’ What’s next? Next week they’re going to say I’m 80 pounds. It’s kind of crazy. The only thing I’m thankful for is that my daughter is not old enough to understand. I don’t want her to ever have body image issues, and I don’t think it’s healthy for her to see that.
Do you like being known as a writer?
If you had asked me 10 years ago, ‘Did you ever think you’d be on the New York Times bestseller list and be an author?’ I would have laughed. I’m sure everyone out there would have laughed, and I would have been laughing along with them — which is one of the reasons I started writing my books because I was able to poke fun at myself.
What’s been the best part of the journey?
I feel like I can totally connect to other women. When they come up to me, and they’ve read my books, they tell me [they] had an experience like this and talk to me about things. It’s not celebrity-fan — it’s just women bonding.